我以前一直很忙碌，没有想过要孩子。但我妻子说，至少要一个吧？我说：好吧，只要一个。就这样我们有了个女儿。
I had enough on my hands, so I never entertained the thought that we should have a child of her own. But my wife said at least one. I said, okay, one, only one.So that happened.
从她还是三个半月婴儿的时候开始,我开车带她穿越印度南部。她就坐在我副驾座位上,我一只手把着她，一只手开车。这是我刚开始设立Isha基金会的时候。所以我就带着三个半月的她一直奔波。四岁之前，她和我一起在车里长大。在很多人的家里长大。所以她很小就认识了成千上万的人。她学会了适应不同的家庭。无论是全世界最富有的家，还是最贫穷的部落，无论在哪里我都会让她看到所有的东西。我不让她在意识里产生偏见或优越倾向，哪里好，哪里不好。
And from the age of when she was an infant, 3/3.5 months of age. I drove across south India with her strap to my front seat of the car me driving alone just one hand here one and steering wheel,this was the time for building Isha foundation. So I traveled extensively and she was traveling with me when she was 3.5 months old infant. So first four years, she grew up in the car with me. And in many people’s homes. So she met thousands of people. And she learned how to become a part of any home anywhere, whether it’s whether it’s the most affluent home in the world, a tribal home just about anywhere I stayed I made sure that she was exposed to everything. I didn’t want her to develop prejudices or privileges of choices of where to be and where not to be.
等她三岁的时候，她已经能叫出一千多个她认识的人的名字。她认为那些都是她的朋友，那些都是成年人。她接触了大量的人，我认为我不会把她送去学校。我小时候不喜欢上学，我不想让她去经历。但同时，我不能给她提供同齡的朋友，因此我想让她去一个竟争不激烈不硬来的学校。最后，我把她送去了克里希那穆提创办的学校。
And by the time, she was three years of age, she at least knew a thousand people by name. She which whom she considered her friends definitely not her age，all grown up people. So the tremendous exposure to people, and I thought I won’t send it to school because I never like to go to school when I was young. So I thought, why should I put it through something. Then the only thing I could not provide her is uh children of her own age.So I put her to a school which is not so competitive, not so pushy. So I looked for a school which was started by Jidu Krishnamurti.
这样更简单，我对老师说：对她宽松一点,因为我不会看成绩单，我不会问排名,我不会问她长大了想成为什么，所以不用担心她的成绩和学业，只要她吃好玩好就可以了。她正在长身体，所以必须吃好。只要她每天开怀大笑，跳舞，歌唱就好了，我不关心成绩。我以前读书时，每次考试都很稳定。每次都得六个零。因为我总是交白卷，如果老师强迫我写，我只在卷子上写上我的名字。否则， 我什么也不写。期末考试来了，我只投入了35%的精力，所以我只得35或36分。每次在考场我坐不到30分钟,铃声一响，我就离开教室。我上课只是为了和朋友们在一起一节又一节课。
I put her there so that it’s easier. And I said, first you go easy on my girl because I don’t want, I’m not going to look at a report card.I’m not gonna ask which rank you are. I’m not gonna ask what are you going to become. So don’t have to bother about her marks or academics. If she plays if she eats well. I’m happy she’s growing up, she must eat well. If she plays well, if she laughs, if she sings, she dances, I’m fine. I’m not concerned about this because when I was in school, every test I was very consistent. I always got six zeros because I never wrote a word on any page, if they insisted I wrote my name. Otherwise, I won’t write. And the final exam came, I only worked for 35 and I always got 35，36. I have never sat in an examination hall beyond 30 minutes. First bell, I’m always out. And I just calculated for what it takes to move on with my friends to the next class. And that’s all I did.
为什么我要说这些？这源于我小时候看到的一切：每个月当成绩单下来时，有些同学就会哭，因为没达到他们虎妈虎爸的要求。有些同学因为得了第一、第二名就很招摇。每次我接到成绩单，我直接就给了我爸爸，我从来没有自己打开看过。因为我觉得成绩单是老师和家长之间的交易，我不想加入他们的交易。所以我告诉我的女儿的校长，别担心她的学习，我只想让她和同龄人在一起。我唯一关心的是她好好吃东西。跳舞，开怀大笑，蹦来蹦去就好了。当她15岁完成了10个标准学业时，我就带她离开了学校。她去学跳舞了。现在她是一个冉冉升起的舞蹈艺术家。
Why I’m saying this is? This whole thing I used to watch as a child. When the report card came every month, some children are crying in the classroom because they’re got not the marks that their tigers parents want. And some were strutting around because they are first or second or whatever. Whenever the teacher gave me the card, this report thing. I just took it and gave it to my father. I never, ever opened and saw because I thought this is a transaction between the teacher and my father. I don’t want to intrude and see what was going on there. So I particularly requested the principal of the school. Don’t worry about my girl’s education. I just want her to be with children of her age group. She eats well just make sure she eats well, my only concern she eats, she eats well, she’s playing, she’s laughing. She’s jumping and dancing. I’m fine with this.So when she became 15 and clear the 10th standard. I took her out of formal education, and I put her into dancing. And now she’s one of the upcoming artist in the country.
我从来没有把她当小孩对待。从她两岁开始说话起，我对她就像对成年人一样平等。大约在她12-13岁时，有一天她回家，她在学校里目睹了一些让她不舒服的事，然后她说：你教了别人很多东西，但你什么也不教我。我说：我只教自愿学习的。现在你主动来问了，先下来。我说：你只需要学会一件事，“永远不要崇拜任何人。她竖起眉毛问：那你呢？我说：尤其不要崇拜我，只有当你不带有色眼镜看我的时候，我的价值才能体现。如果你崇拜一个人，你也许把他贴在墙上，也许点上一根香，或者围起来，然后现实中就把我给忘了。这样做并不会改变你的生活，你得不带偏见地去看一个人。看到他的真相，这样他的价值才能体现。
So I never treated her as a child, first thing from the age of two, from the time she got started speaking, I always treated her as an equal as an adult. Around 12,13 years of age, she came home one day. And she was disturbed about something that she saw something that happened at school. And then she said, you’re teaching everybody so many things. You’re not teaching me anything. I said,see, I am not known to teach anything unsolicited. Here you have come. Now sit down. I said, this is all you need to know. You’ll never look up to anybody. Eyebrows rising: What about you? I said, especially me because the value of who I am is only, if you see me the way I am. If you look up to me, you will nail me to the wall and maybe smoke me light an incense or put a mile around me and forget about me. This not going to change your life in any way. You must just see me the way I am. You must see me just for what I am. Then I am of immense value to you.
如果仰视他，你就得不到任何价值。所以，不要仰视任何人，不要俯视任何人。你只要做到了这件事，你就能看到一切的实相。只有当你看到了事物的实相，你才能轻松驾驭你的人生航线。这就孩子需要的所有能力，所以我总是把她当成年人平等对待。我只让她学会不带偏见地去对待人生，因为仰视或俯视都是一种假象。仰视源于某种主义偏见，同样俯视也是源于某种偏见。
But if you look up to me, you will miss it. So never look up to anybody. Never look down on anybody. If do this one thing, you will see everything just the way it is. Only if you see things the way they are, you can navigate effortlessly, isn’t it so. This is so with life also. This is all the ability you need to give to your child. So I always treated her as an adult， just learning to see life just the way it is. Looking up is a lie looking down is a lie. Looking up is coming for a certain prejudice. Looking down is coming from a certain prejudice.
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